Have you ever been lost? How did you feel? What did you do? I hate getting lost, I feel so stupid when it happens, especially when I am in a place I have never been to before, and I can’t easily retrace my steps. A week ago, I was hanging out with my sister, and we were on our way to my niece’s birthday party in another part of town. My sister had never been to this place, but I had been there once. But I still went ahead to ask for directions from my elder brother.
And yet despite all my good intentions, I still managed to get lost. I am now more convinced that moving around in Lagos is a complex task. Okay, maybe not so complex when you finally understand the nooks and corners. But It wasn’t that we were completely lost; it was that we did not know where and how to connect to get to the place we were going.
Now at this point, we had a few options, we could have decided to go back home, or to keep going and find our way to the party. Now we could have decided to just shuffle along, aimlessly wandering around, in the hope of getting to our destination or we could ask for help and get more directions.
My sister and I went with option number three; we had to keep asking people for directions until we got to our destination. If we had gone with option one, we would have missed the party, but we would be safe at home. If we had taken option two, we probably would have ended up more frustrated, more lost and missed the party.
In life, things don’t always work out as we plan and even with our best intentions we can still lose our way. And even though it is a frustrating thing to happen, it does not mean you should give up on your quest. Getting lost is part of the adventure of getting to your destination. The important thing is to seek for help once you realize you have gone off track and get back on your journey. Asking for help, requires humility, and admitting to yourself that you are lost, and that you need help.
It is very important that you ask the right people for directions. The tricky part is figuring out who the right people are. But by using common sense and your gut- feeling, and by making sure that you are in a safe environment, you should be able to find a few people who will point you in the right direction. Remember to weigh your helpers’ suggestions in the light of what you already know as facts, and also compare this new information with what others have said.
There is no shame in losing one’s way, it is how you respond to the situation that determines your destiny. So if by chance you have lost your way in your relationships, your career, your business and your spiritual life, do not panic. Take your bearings and seek advice from those around you, who are sensible and have good advice and then retrace your steps, and continue on in your journey to a better and fulfilled you.
“If you feel lost, disappointed, hesitant, or weak, return to yourself, to who you are, here and now and when you get there, you will discover yourself, like a lotus flower in full bloom, even in a muddy pond, beautiful and strong.”
― Masaru Emoto, Secret Life of Water