“Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”~Martin Luther King Jr.
What is Love? It is a four-letter word packed with so much power. It is a word that conjures up a lot of emotions. In romantic settings, passion is what drives it. Yet it is much more than passionate kisses, Or one taking strolls on the beach at night. It is the foundation of our society. Homes and nations grow or fall by the wayside, depending on whether or not love resides in the hearts of those who call those places home.
Today is Valentine’s Day; usually, many people go all out for their romantic partners. Yet I wonder if it hits the same way during a Pandemic and do people feel like celebrating love? Valentine’s Day has never been a holiday I paid much attention to. The only time I thought about it was in my secondary school in Zambia. Back then, I would cut up paper and cardboard pieces and create Valentine cards for my sister and my friends.
Many are going through a lot of pain and suffering in light of the present situation worldwide. Therefore, we need to celebrate Valentine’s Day in a more profound way beyond commercialized traditions. Valentine’s Day should also be a day we choose to celebrate friendship in whatever form and shape they come in.
These past few months have shown us how much we need human connection to thrive. We now know how important a hug, or meeting for coffee or tea is for our well being and health.
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”― Lao Tzu
Building Strong foundations
This pandemic has brought to the surface a lot of things that lay hidden. The truth is that many of us got so busy making a living we forgot to invest in our relationships. Yet relationships are instrumental to us. Relationships are where we derive our strength and courage to become the best version of ourselves. But having a great relationship built on trust and love requires that each party bring something to the table. Often we expect more from others and are not willing to give as much in the relationship. At other times we provide so much and don’t expect much from the other person.
Of course, there are seasons, when one has more to give than the other, but it should just before a season. Otherwise, the relationship moves to an unhealthy zone. Soon people begin to take their friends or partners for granted. People stop giving their best, and they settle into this false calm space built around the same dull routines that have expired long ago.
The truth is every relationship needs to be refreshed once in a while. Sometimes that means that we also need to take time to care for ourselves because we cannot give our best to others if we have not cultivated self-love. Yet many of us never take time to pamper ourselves, show ourselves love and kindness. So we keep giving until the tank is nearly empty and we have no more love to give.
So this Valentine’s Day, why don’t we commit to ourselves and those we love that we will show up every day by loving and caring for each other.